Tuesday, February 23, 2016

Well, this is new... #tween

I had a shocking revelation this week. My little girl is totally a tween. Almost eight years old but mature beyond her years, my creative, sporty, and sensitive child is becoming moody. She is isolating herself more. She has less patience with baby brother, who has somehow captured a hurricane in his little toddler body. She worries... a lot. She studies and writes lyrics to songs. She wants to look stylish. She wants to understand more about love and dating - but she doesn't want to ask me.

Insert mom freak out here... I have no idea what to do with this! 

I have had several years to become comfortable with little kids. My relationship with my daughter has been extra special, and I want to walk that fine line between being #1 fan and being her mom. I want her to talk to me and always know that I've got her back, but I don't want to nag when she just needs space. I want her to love her brother and play with him without a feeling of parental responsibility. It's OK for her to be the fun one in his life, and she is not less cool for hanging out with him. She's actually one of the coolest big sisters ever!


 
Are you stepping into the world of tweens too? Experienced moms of teens... do you have any tips for smoothing out the bumps in the adolescent road?

In the meantime, I need to study up. Here are a few expert articles that are helpful starting points to guide parents through tween years:

10 Tips For Parenting Your Pre-Teen 

28 Things No One Tells You About Parenting a Tween 
("they will Google you" - I love this.) 

Parenting Tweens section on Huffington Post



5 comments :

  1. Wow, 8 years old is a bit early for all that. But then, girls are unpredictable. I have no great advice for you, other than to look for the little moments when she might indicate she wants to open up and talk. Like when you're driving somewhere together, or when you're cooking - and seize those moments.

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  2. SO I have 5 kids (16, 14, 11, 10, 7) and all I can say is....This too shall pass and so don't burn any bridges. Ha. I have found that the less emotional I become about the changes (meaning I don't take what they say personal, don't allow myself to mourn that they don't need me the same as they have in the past, they are embarrassed by me) the better my relationship remains. Those changes are tough. They come around...they always do. Look for those glimpses of what your child used to be but remember they are simply changing into the amazing person you always hoped she would be. It's just an ugly process. Good luck!!

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  3. Yep, my 12 and 10 year old girls are definitely knee deep in tweenhood. I don't like it. They're not snotty or anything yet, but in due time right? ;) I have a feeling things are about to get harder!

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